The Importance Of Confidence And How You Can Improve It
Having helped people make transformations over a number of years now I’ve observed an interesting phenonemen.
The ones that make the easiest path towards their physical goals are often not the ones you would necessarily think will succeed…and the ones that don’t are the ones that you perceive to have all the tools and motivation they need!
I started thinking about this more recently, not actually seeing it from a weight loss perspective to begin with.
Have you ever noticed how a lot of our actions and responses to things are governed by how we are feeling at that time……from the time we snap at our partner when they ask an innocent question about how our day has been, to when we catch the end of a conversation and assume they’ve been talking about us….
When our confidence is down the way we view EVERYTHING has a negative slant……be that anything in life and if the old saying “you sometimes can’t help what happens to you, but you can help how you react to it” is true then viewing events from a place of decreased confidence will see you reacting in a less than positive manner.
There are many ways WE try and decrease our confidence (yep we are often guilty of being the actual people to blame for lower confidence)
Be it from the obsessive comparison of ourselves against other people to our constant striving for an unobtainable ideal (it’s unobtainable because we keep moving the ideal further and further away from ourselves despite our improvements).
Allowing other people to affect us with their opinions and words is another way…..I agree this is a hard one to stop, however, if we look at their behaviour from the point of view of “when people are giving you a hard time, it’s probably because they are having a hard time” it gets a little easier.
Seeing their words and actions this way gives us a different perspective so that we are less likely to take things as personally, and again remember that you have the ability to react however you like to the things that happen to you.
The quickest way to feel good about yourself is to regain your control by controlling your reactions to events.
Another great way is to instead of looking at other peoples unique abilities with envy or comparing them against yourself is to have a NO COMPARISON ATTITUDE.
Rather than envy, by admiring unique abilities in others you will improve your own.
I have been using a specific thinking tool to aid in constantly increasing my confidence, as has everyone at The DVCC, its called The 21 Day Positive Focus.
Its something we are going to be introducing to everyone, its a great tool to really allow you to focus on all the things you are achieving every day…..After all lots of small steps equals giant ones in the end!
Let me know your thoughts?
Steve
http://www.doublevisionpt.com http://www.bedfordbootcamp.com http://www.harpurtrustfitmums.com http://www.bedfordbridalbootcamp.com














